Patience, Love and Letting Go

"The webs we create around ourselves need to be unwound. If you have ever untangled a ball of string, you know that yanking and pulling only makes it worse. You need to very gently and patiently unravel the knots. Be gentle and patient with yourself as you untangle your own mental knots. Get help if you need it. Above all, love yourself in the process. The willingness to let go of the old is the key."

I love this quote.  It reminds me that working too hard at something, pretty much anything, can be counterproductive.  Patiently and gently moving in the right direction is much more effective, not to mention much less traumatic. 

When we are in distress or wanting to make changes within ourselves, we can get very impatient and rough with ourselves.  We frequently just want to be done with whatever it is an move on, and can be very critical and blaming to ourselves if it doesn't happen immediately. 

We first need to come to terms with whatever has occurred in the past that is keeping us stuck.  We cannot let it go (i.e. forgive ourselves or others) if we continue to blame ourselves or someone else for what happened.  We want to learn to accept that this "thing" has happened, and then we can let it go and move forward.  It is more useful, not to mention feels much better, to meet ourselves with love and understanding.